The Donkey in the Well

Life is a story


One of the biggest lessons for me during my I Stop Complaining challenge was to become aware of all the times in my life when I considered myself like a victim.

When my children’s school changes the schedule last-minute and upsets my own personal agenda, when my hotel messes-up my reservation, when my kids wake me up in the middle of the night, when I am late for a meeting because of road construction or traffic, when economy is bad and my personal finances suffer, when my electricity is cut off  because I paid the bill a few days  late, when my internet connection is bad, when my prospective client forgets to cancel our meeting and I end up losing precious time…

All these annoying and pesky moments felt like sharp arrows attacking me and often time I just wanted to give-up, telling myself: ” What a sh..ty day!” , “This only happens to me!” or “Another headache!”

This story “The Donkey in the Well”  really puts things in perspective:

The Donkey in the Well 

One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey.
He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him. they all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly.
Then, to everyone’s amazement, he quieted down. A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well, and was astonished at what he saw.With every shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.
As the farmer’s neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and trotted off!

Each of our problems can be considered  like a stepping stone that allows us to  make a step  forward.

We can get out of the deepest holes by never stopping. Never giving up! Shake ourselves off and forge ahead!

If the donkey had decided to act like a victim he would have continued to cry and complain, and he would still be at the bottom of the well!  Instead, he chose to fight and to be creative. Often when I feel I am at the bottom of a well, I  remember this donkey.

Victims cannot win and we must choose who we want to be at every instant.

In the end, Life is a story, make yours a best seller!

Interview with Lilou Mace: I Stop Complaining and {Bitching!}

Throwback Thursday, I don’t think I shared this video with you yet… I had the pleasure to meet Lilou Mace in Los Angeles a little while back for an interview about my French bestseller “J’arrête de râler!” – I Stop Complaining!

The conversation was so juicy we decided to do a little segment in English for my US audience. Here it is!


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The Legend of the Two Wolves

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This old Cherokee fable has  a deep message. Which wolf will you feed?



A young boy came to his Grandfather, filled with anger at

another boy who had done him an injustice.

The old Grandfather said to his grandson, “Let me tell you a

story. I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that

have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do. But hate

wears you down, and hate does not hurt your enemy. Hate is

like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have

struggled with these feelings many times.”

“It is as if there are two wolves inside me; one wolf is good and

does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him and


not take offence when no offence was intended. He will only

fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way. But the

other wolf, is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a

fit of temper.”

“He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot

think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless

anger, because his anger will change nothing. Sometimes it is

hard to live with these two wolves inside me, because both of

the wolves try to dominate my spirit.”

The boy looked intently into his Grandfather’s eyes and asked,

“Which wolf will win, Grandfather?”

The Grandfather smiled and said, “The one I feed.”


Stop Complaining! How to live harmoniously at work ?

Inspired from my French bestseller “J’arrête de râler!”, read an article in English on “Stop Complaining: How to live harmoniously at work?”  in Marie France, Asia edition! Read full article!

Marie France Asia

“By changing our reflexes, we gradually change our thoughts and feelings,” says Christine Lewicki. To avoid temper tantrums, it is also as important not to suppress your frustration. Be vigilant as to when the pressure rises. Set limits, express your needs to your supervisor, learn how to say no, ask for help…”

I Quit Complaining and {Bitching!} Introduction

This is how my “21 Day Challenge to Quit Complaining {and Bitching}!” started!

This journey gave birth to a French blog and a French Best-selling book called “J’arrête de râler!” ( more than 150 000 copies sold) and today I am committing myself to share the lessons that I have learned along the way with you my English readers on this blog.

Follow the challenge and my journey and please share your own experiences on this blog and keep in touch on Facebook , too!

Say YES to Life!


When we position ourself as a victim and complain about what others or things are making us go through and endure…we are  really rejecting what life has to offer. The quote that follows illustrates and  expands on this idea from Frédéric Lenoir, French author of “Petit traité de vie intérieure” “Little  Inner Life  Treaty “( Plon edition).

“By merely acquiescing to Life, it provides a feeling of gratitude which in itself is a great source of happiness, and allows us to fully embrace the positive and to transform the negative as much as possible. Saying ” yes” is an inner attitude that opens us to life’s motion,  its unpredictability , its unexpected and  surprises.”

Say “YES” to Life!